What is compatibility in a relationship? Aaron Zhu defined compatibility in a relationship as the ability to be truly happy with one another.
Though every relationship starts off as a result of partners thinking they love one another, the truth is, they can be happy with one another without being in love. On the other hand, partners have known to be in love but break up after only a few months due to lack of compatibility.
Some experts have argued through research that the personality factor influences the compatibility of partners. Others have objected and declared that while that may be the case, the personality may not be the determining component of whether partners are compatible or not.
Furthermore, the fact there is a correlation between personality and successful relationships is not to say such correlation is the cause.
In light of all these, intending partners should take into consideration both personality factors, love factors and every other factor which they deem necessary in making their choice of partners.
While it is safe to advise partners to come to a compromise in terms of their characters in other to become compatible with their partners, it is practically injurious to their personalities to do just that.
It is thus safe to advise partners that before they get to meet their boyfriends, girlfriends or spouse, they should choose partners who are more compatible with their lifestyles rather than just depending on love.
There are no fast rules or quick signs to truly know if you are compatible. For partners to be compatible, they should be able to coexist with one another. This means they are completely happy and content with the idea of being together for the rest of their lives.
It’s okay to use some statistical measures to try and see if your partner is compatible with you but be rest assured that, in simple terms what you really need to know is if you can live happily with this person and be comfortable with them for the rest of your lives.
Compatibility Tests For Couples
As couples, the manner in which you manage, spend, save, invest money,etc., is very important in a relationship. Couples have to agree on how money is being managed, you both have to agree on how such plans are carried out.
The way you approach intimacy as couples matter as well. This has to do with the initiation of sensual intimacy, the frequency and the preferable ways you want to go about it. In this case, we are talking about sensual compatibility. If it becomes a challenge, visiting a therapist won’t do you any harm.
Another key issue to address as couples is the issue of religious beliefs. It’s advisable to marry someone with similar beliefs as yourself. This may not be much of a problem when you have no children yet but when they eventually come, that gulf will be evident.
If you are already married and you are in that phase, it means one of you has to compromise their beliefs for peace to reign in the home.
In other to maintain your union and ensure peace in the home, it is best to give the children religious independence to make their own choice and avoid punishing them if they don’t end up choosing your side of the faith. If not properly handled, such cases can go violent and cause breakup in the home.
Are We Too Different To Make It Work?
No! You are not too different such that it can’t work? If you fall under the category of people who say, ‘we are not compatible but I love him or her’, you can still have a shot at it provided the both of you are willing to go the extra mile to make it work.